Friday, June 8, 2012

June 8, 1991




Sweet young precious life
Memories getting older
Never forgotten




Gentle wisp of wind

Touch my face, tell me you're here

Touch my heart and soul
Jim Cooper
June 8, 1991. That is a very important date in our lives here at Spadoville. It was twenty one years ago on this date that our oldest daughter Maggie was killed in an automobile accident. It still hurts. It still cuts deeply into our souls.
Along with Maggie, we lost Jim Cooper on that day. That's him, leaning on his old jalopy, in the photo above. Adrienne was in the back seat and lived to tell about it. It’s been tough for her as a survivor of such a tragedy. But it is her vow to carry on my daughter’s memory, forever. Ours too.
Bobby, Maggie and Adrienne on Maggie's graduation day in 1991. We lost Bobby too a few years later. He was in a plane crash. His story will be told in November

Yes, there are others in each of our lives that have passed on before us, but today is the day we remember this particular tragedy. I think a trip to the cemetery is in order today. We’ll look at her name on the granite stone marker. We’ll see the roses that Adrienne placed there. We’ll throw roses into the small pond that resides close to the granite bench. We will cry. We will embrace each other. We will go on living in the shadow of having lost our first born daughter. We will remember.
Don’t pity us, please. Just remember we are human and have lost a part of ourselves. Know that we are not quite ourselves today. Pray for peace for all people. Thank your higher power for every blessing you have.
Margaret Ellen, (Maggie), Spado
07/26/1973----------06/08/1991

Peace

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25 comments:

Laura said...

Blessings and comfort to you at this time of opening your hearts to grieve some more, and remember the joyful moments of life with your beautiful daughter as well.

Jeannie said...

Losing a child must be the hardest thing ever. I can't handle the deaths of young people whatsoever.

Praying that the joy of having her is more than the pain of losing her.

ArtMuseDog and Carol said...

Warm light, hugs and love sent to you and your family as you cherish the memories of your loved ones ~ wonderful haiku tribute you have written ~ namaste, Carol and ArtMuse Dog

SkippyMom said...

Thinking of you today and sending love and hugs. She is a beautiful girl Joe and I can tell a true blessing.

Hugs my friend.

rebecca said...

dear beautiful maggie,

i look at you and see life blooming. i see your mother and father all wrapped up in your precious eyes, smile, heart. you exited this earth the year my only child arrived. i will tell him i love him a dozen more times today and think of you. and when he answers i will be filled with believing that you too are filling your family's heart, your love as vital and sweet as red roses.

joanne said...

This past week has been a time of great memories and great sadness over loss of family....mom, dad, and sister in 10 years.....Sister Grace's birthday is Sunday...
You have definitely 'touched my soul' today...Thank you

Blue said...

Thinking of you and your family, Joe.

colenic said...

Peace and blessings to you and your family today.

Libby said...

Hi Spadoman... What a beautiful daughter. I am glad that you shared her picture with us. I am so sorry about what happened, and my thoughts and prayers go with you when you visit the cemetery today....

Karen said...

I hope you are touched by that gentle wisp of wind today.

Annie said...

My heart is helplessly clenching for you all. No pity, just heart-felt sorrow for so terrible a lose. I'm placing Maggie's and Bobby's names on my prayer list side for a while. Also Jim's.

Cheryl said...

I'm with you today. Peace, my friend.

Fallingladies said...

we can feel sad for you without pity... she is beautiful! thank you for sharing something so important.

priti.lisa said...

Such a message sent with your story...be thankful for everything...
I love the idea of a wisp of wind being an angel's kiss...that's a beautiful thought. And a bit of comfort, I suppose, knowing an angel so intimately.
Love to you and the Mrs ♥♥♥

Marit said...

Thinking of you and your family today Joe. You make the precious, little note my son left me this morning even more precious...

Irene Rafael said...

you have put into words a loss that has left you without a part of yourself. with your large heart you have encompasses and embraced life with all that it offers and share it with others so we can understand just a little it more the workings in this world. your words have enriched and informed my life today. thank you.

gma said...

This haiku touched me deeply. A longing for unconditional love to return to us. So glad you can feel Maggies love on gentle wind.

Magical Mystical Teacher said...

Love to you, my friend. Love.

Rachel said...

This was a very touching haiku thank you for sharing in your vulnerability, Praying for peace for all humanity, counting my blessings and lifting you up may you find peace and comfort!

Noelle Clearwater said...

Hello my dear friend--I offer you my heart, my hand, and a virtual walk with you in memory as you celebrate the life of your dear girl. I didn't know that this was the anniversary of her passing. I would not have posted the film of the deathly hallows had I known but perhaps it was meant to be. You seemed to take some grace from it and after all, it was offered in love. I love you Joe and the memory of Maggie lives in your heart, in your spirit and in the generous sharing that you do. Holding you and your sweet family in the light.
Peace, Love and Hugs to you and Barb,
Noelle

Dawn Elliott said...

I am so touched learning about your dear, sweet daughter, who left this earth far too soon.
Your yearly tradition of marking her death is so tender and loving...I do the same on my best friend's birthday, ever since her untimely death in her early thirties. I do believe that they hear the longings and love we send their way...

redondowriter said...

She is lovely, Joe, and I hope you were comforted by visiting her grave today. We never get over these kinds of losses, but somehow we keep on keeping on, carrying them in our hearts until the end of our own days.

Spadoman said...

Thank you all so very much for these wonderful blessings you send my family and me. Peace to all.

Stephanie said...

Joe,
My heart goes out to you and your family, it never gets any easier...just different. We visited the cemetery in MI and found great comfort in walking amongst the stones.
x..x

Mel said...

(((((((((( Spadoman ))))))))))))))

(((((((((( Barb )))))))))))))

Blessings.
Every day.

My heart hurts for that empty spot of yours.