Saturday, March 31, 2007

The Drum and the Gallon of Milk

Recently, a good friend forwarded one of those e-mails to me. You know the kind, pass this on to 350,000 people within the next micro second and you’ll be blessed by God almighty with a bolt of greased lightning.

I read them, I really do, but I don’t pass them on to anyone. Well, once in a while, if I think someone I know would be interested I’ll write a short personal note and pass it on, but usually it gets trashed.

This one was about God. This man who seems to have neglected God for a while feels compelled to talk to God and listen for God’s word to him. In his experience, he goes and buys a gallon of milk, drives down a street in a semi-seedy part of town and delivers the milk to a strangers house, all these acts being directed by God via voices in his head I guess.

Low and behold, the stranger answers the door and has a crying starving baby at home and in dire need of milk. You see, they had no money and the baby was starving.

I don’t know about you, but if people in my household were that hungry, I’d find some kitchen appliance and go to the pawn shop and get five bucks so I could buy a 1/2 gallon of milk and a Snickers bar to eat on the way home.

Ok, ok. It was a good human nature story and I got the point. But in my life, this kind of “miracle” happens all the time. It does for all of us, but we are seldom paying attention.

A year ago last April, I went to a Pow Wow with a friend of mine. We both make crafts in the style of the Native Americans. Dream Catchers, Rattles, Drums, Shields.

Anyway, my friend needed to sell some of his crafts in order to make some money. I paid the vendor fees and we set up our stuff. He didn’t sell anything and I sold just enough to pay for my gas and the fees. But something did happen that I find to be interesting.

A young woman stopped by my table and was interested in buying a certain drum I had displayed. She didn’t have enough money and I told her that I doubted if I was going to sell it. I told her that if she called me when her finances were more in order, I’d send the drum to her. She took my number and that was that. This was the first time I talked to her.

She did call me a month or so later and asked about the drum. I told her I still had it, but that I was leaving town on a long trip. We agreed to wait until I returned and then I would contact her and make arrangements for the drum. This exchange was the second time we talked about it.

I returned from my trip and called her as I promised and now, again, she wasn’t prepared to purchase the drum. I said we’d keep in touch.

Now, besides the drum in our conversations, we talked about many things that we seemed to have in common, namely, our individual paths with Native American Spirituality. She mentioned in each conversation her desire for me to meet a man that she knew who was guiding and teaching her about this spiritual way of life. We had talked three times.

My involvement in the path of the Red Road leads me to many things. One of these is the Sweat Lodge ceremony. A friend of mine put me on notice that there would be such a ceremony soon at a place near where I live. I was planning on going.

Before that, I had a strong thought about the drum for that woman. I thought that I would give her this drum. I felt compelled to do this. Some may say I had a “vision” to do this. So, I called and invited the woman to the Sweat Lodge ceremony and planned on giving her the drum when I saw her. The call and meeting would have been the fourth time we were in contact. This fourth meeting had significance as in the spirits from the four directions were guiding us on this endeavor.

She agreed to come to the ceremony and was pleased to be invited. I told her when I saw her that I had had the vision to give her the drum. I did so. She was pleased and in return, made a fine bag of gifts for me as well. Wild rice, sage and a nice wooden bowl which I display and use as a tobacco urn at home.

Here we are. Almost two years to the day later. She and her talented drumming singing son are regulars at the lodge ceremonies. We come to the Sweat Lodge to pray and be reborn, cleansed of what ails us, and as we pray, the drum beats and rattles shake, the voices sing out songs of healing and honor. I hear the beat of the drum I made and gave to this stranger. I get to pray with that very drum in this circle.

Maybe not as much of a miracle as the milk story. But I do know this. Last time we talked, we reminisced about the table where we met and the story about the drum. How it came “full circle” back to me. She asked me if I’ve sold stuff at the Pow Wows and how that was going. I told her that I had never done that sale thing before I met her and I haven’t done it since.

Still later, I met another woman at a Sweat Lodge ceremony. We were talking and she asked how I knew the person who owned the house where the lodge ceremony was being held. I tried to explain and before I got into the conversation very far, she said, "You're the man who gave her the drum!"

Now for me, here is the miracle: The Creator sent us both on our separate journey. Her to the Pow Wow as a visitor, me to the Pow Wow as a vendor. He guided us to meet, me having the drum, her wanting it. And He made it so we stayed in touch about it. He further guided us to be friends, and make new friends.

I believe this is how it works. This kind of stuff happens all the time. We must pay attention and if we do, and we see this circle of life working, we acknowledge it, accept it, and give thanks for it.

When I named this Blog Round Circle. this is what I was trying to portray. The “Roundness” of life. How one thing affects another. How the relationship of one thing happened because of something else. Like that gallon of milk that the stranger brought to the home of a man whose child was hungry and starving. If he had gone forth and told people that his child was starving, the people would make sure the child was fed. He didn’t have to sit at home and wallow in pride and pity and watch his child starve.

This act, bringing the child to the people, is called effort. If we put in some effort, we’ll get results. I don’t want to send the parable of the gallon of milk to the people in their e-mail. I want to be with the people and find out who is in need and help out. I don’t want to blindly knock on someone's door and have milk for the lactose intolerant teenage son of the fellow who can buy all the beer he wants.

Spring is close at hand. The maple trees are giving sap. Buds are appearing on the willows. The circle brings forth all this now, then the season of growth followed by the beauty of Autumn. Winter sets in and the plants and trees die off or lay dormant for the next Spring. Those that die are used as fuel for the fire to turn the sap into sugar. The people eat the sugar for food and energy so they can plant trees and harvest sap for generations. The circle.

How much of your life do you knowingly acknowledge in this way? Do you ever? Does the idea of accepting this task appeal to you?

I must admit. I am lost sometimes. I didn’t remember to live this way or that. I wallowed in my own self pity. I put forth no effort and waited for the milk, then felt sorry when it never came. All I ever had to do was ask for it when I needed it. I persecute myself for my failure to be living every moment as I think I should be living it, yet with a little effort, I didn’t have to suffer at all. The answers are always right there in front of me, but I failed to see them, only because I stopped looking, stopped making an effort.

This isn’t about religion. It isn’t about god or repenting or suffering. It is about living and being alive and sharing life with all around you in the circle. It’s about putting forth the effort to live life and not go through the motions.

Yes, I’ve had a few bad days lately. I was waiting for the milk instead of going out and saying to someone that I needed some. I wallowed in the crap in my head and didn’t see anything around me. I stopped putting forth effort to help my own situation. I got through it, but not without a lot of pain and suffering that I didn’t need to endure. Next time, I’ll just go to the circle.

14 comments:

Anne said...

Great post, my friend. I was just about to ask how you were, but I guess this answers my question. I am well aware of the full circle. It seems I spend much more time beginning cicles than seeing them come back around, but I don't mind at all. I'm far from perfect, and occasionally even mess up bigtime, but I try to do what I can. You seem to be making this do-gooder thing into an art form. Good for you. :)

betmo said...

ah so grasshopper :)

skinnylittleblonde said...

I think you are right on it Spadoman! Funny, how things always come around. I would love one day to travel out there & join your drum circle...I have not a musical bone in my body, but I have it in my spirit & know that it would be grounding. Peace & love to you and this great round circle!

This reminded me of a poem that was in my high school graduation invitation. I think it was by Edwin Markhim.
'Heretic, Rebel, a thing to flout
He Drew a Circle that Shut me Out
But Love & I had the Wit to Win
We Drew a Circle that drew Him In.'

annie said...

it was really nice to read this, joe.

round and round and round in the circle game...

thanks for sticking around.

John Good said...

Another excellent tale! You scared me for a second tonite (I was unaware of the address change). So very glad to find you here, via Pam once more.

Pam said...

I was thinking about you lately and wondering why you changed blog addresses...thinking there may be some negativity that led to the decision. But also not wanting to be nosy enough to ask (I convinced myself it was "respecting privacy").

Ask for milk or drums or anything else you need, any time. Many of us wish we could do more for the people we come across or care about in this round circle, but we have no idea what is needed at that moment.

Coffee Messiah said...

No need to worry, as there'll always be some to be received. ; (

To keep moving, and admit faults is what we all need to do more. To accept our humaness, but to continue passing positive thoughts to all around us.

I'm passing some your way, my friend! ; )

Lola Heatherton said...

We MISS you. Come visit!

Kitchen Window Woman said...

I'm speechless. I'v experienced cirles and always find what comes as sort of pleasantly surprising at first, but with further thought meaning becomes clear. Even bad things become teachings that can be used for the positive. Beautifully written.

Pursey Tuttweiler said...

This is beautiful and it is true. Thank you Spadoman.
I met a man today. 15 years ago he was on a New Jersey shoreline. A helicopter crashed. He swam into the water and saved the only survivor, a 14-year-old boy. His entire family was killed, except his mother, who did not go on the helicopter ride.

Last year the man was talking to someone who was describing this brilliant guitar player who had 30 guitars. It turned out to be the boy he saved and they met again.

How wonderful.

It is a circle.

just me said...

Beautiful as always. There is one quote in the bible that I have always accepted as being a wonderful philosphy for life. "If your brother asks for your cloak, give it to him, and give him your coat also.." (somewhat abbridged0. I agree, if my children were wanting for anything, you get your butt in action.

But, the circle is there. Always, kinda like what goes around comes around. Let's hope what comes back to us all is a reflection of the help and support we have offered others.

DivaJood said...

Usually, we don't see the way things come full circle. Our limited human brains don't make those links. Sometimes, there is a Great Story, like the one Pursey describes, but ususally it is so small we don't recognize it.

So the key is to live each day mindfully, and with a grateful heart. Be open, and be willing.

Thanks, Spado.

deuddersun said...

It's not how you begin that matters. It's how you end.

d.

singleton said...

sweet, sweet spado....I needed this tonight....may the circle be unbroken! I've been thinking,tinking, about you lately, and you dear friend, dance to the beat of the finest drummer! Peace, love and an ever growing circle to you and yours! Lean in, hold hands, and be glad!